My final say before midnight

My thinking has changed in all sorts of ways from this class. We didnt talk about anything I really hadnt heard of before. However, I found it very insightful to listen to everyones opinions. By listening it either enforced my opinions or made me think of something in a new light.I think the most signifigant take away learning from this class just how many various opinions there are on certain topics. Its hard to reall narrow in on one specific thing because I thought the whole journey of the class was one big take away learning experience. This class made me realize that there are people who are not as open about sex as I am and I just find it hard to believe and understand because my family,friends and boyfriend have been so open about it. I thouroughly enjoyed our class disscussions and found the talk about masturbation really interesting. I never really thought about how taboo it was to talk about it before. Its not something that I think needs to be disscussed on a daily basis or anything but I never thought about how people dont talk about it because there is a kind of shame attatched to it. Our disscussion on abortion was also interesting. The one guy in the back corner on your right..Justin is his name I think. Anyways he always had something insightful and interesting to say and i enjoyed listening to his opinions on our various disscussions. I really enjoyed this class and I'm sad it has come to an end. Thanks so much Rob! I feel so privleged to have taken part in your class. :)

Monogomy, Polygyny and Polyandry

We were asked in class awhile ago if we were naturally monogamous. I feel that we are strongly influenced by our culture and society. We are influenced so strongly that our culture and society seems natural. I know I consider my society and culture natural because I have grown up in the setting it has presented. Thus I feel monogomy is natural to me because I have grown up under that influence. However, if i grew up in a society that practiced polygny and polyandry then I'm sure I would feel that was how I was supposed to naturally act. I dont think we are naturally born with this idea that we are going to be with one person or even many this is something we learn from our external influences, such as, our family society, friends and so on. I think this is how it works in the animal world as well. Most animals live together in a pack and they are to follow and obey the leader. If the leader has sex with many, they will follow suit. Same goes for if they have sex with one the others will follow to stay a member of that pack.

The sesond part of the question asked in class was which is a mor common form of polygymy polygyny or polyandry. The answer is polygyny, the practice of many wives. I believe there is actually a tv show on tlc about it.The following is a link to their disscussion about it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ytmOlq3Q1pM&feature=fvsr (Again the links dont seem to wanna work so just copy and paste it into the tool bar and it should work for you)
There are a few video clips and I just find it interesting that it is something they all chose and something they are allright with. I know I wouldnt like it I want to be the only wife to my future husband. However it does not bother me that not everyone practices that.

The Relationship Market Place

I liked how you reffered to looking for someone as the relationship marketplace. So I thought I would expand on that analogy. When you go to the marketplace to pick out fruit you are initially drawn to the prettiest looking fruit whether it is a shiney apple or a yellow pear. They may look pretty but perhaps upon closer examination they are bruised or rotten. Perhaps you realize that you dont like them at all and would much prefer a peach. You may decide on the peach and carry it through the store for quiete sometime but as you near the cashier and she rings through you peach, you realize that it costs more then its worth at this point in time or maybe forever. Eventually you will search through the marketplace again searching for the perfect one.

Willow Smith, "I whip my hair"

I think this is quiete possibly the worst song I have ever heard.
One because it is an extremely annoying song and secondly it is a 10 year old girl singing about "whipping" her hair. Its one thing when children of this age are listening to this music and an entirely different situation when they are singing about it. They are publically singing about promiscuous things they don't even realize they are singing about. Not to mention that the music industry is doing nothing to stop it. In fact it seems like they are promoting it. I just find it crazy that this is in the public eye and could very well be played at a bar. A ten year olds song playing in a bar, thats just insane.Not to mention the dancing she does in the video. Its just insane that she is 10years old and people are allowing her to dance and sing about things that are way above herage level. I dont really have much else to say about this besides how crazy I feel that it is. I think more needs to be done so this sort of thing does not continue on in years to come. Here is a link to the song so you can take a listen to it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymKLymvwD2U (you will have to copy paste this link in the toolbar for it to work because for some reason it doesnt want to work)

Prostitution

I found it intriguing to hear that they are now calling prostitues sex trade workers. Im not really sure what I think of this actually. Changing the name and calling it a trade makes it seem like its an ok thing for people to do. It confuses me because I dont really know if i consider prostitution wrong. I mean I wouldnt do it myself, but if someone else chooses to sell there body what makes that wrong? If both people are willing its not rape.However, I want to make it extremely clear that I think there is an extreme difference between people who want to engage in prostitution and children and women who are forced into it and used as a sex slaves.However, I want to point out that there are women who chose to take that route. So the next question is why do some women want to sell their body? I believe this want that some prostitutes have, is largely influenced by this heavily thrown about concept of sex. I know there are some women who feel they must meet a mans sexual desires and they have no objection against it. So who are we to tell them that their beliefs are wrong? Thinking deeper into it I wonder if it is wrong to most people cuz the element of money is involved in it. I think of this because there are people who will sleep around with lots of people just for the fun of it but they have more dignity then a prostitute and the only thing that seperates them is this concept of money. It really is curious why does money make something so wrong. I mean it seems like society is somewhat testing our limits. In the movie get him to the greek the main character states what is the point of being monogamous when there are soo many women out there.So why is somewhat less of a problem for people to go to a bar every weekend and come home with a different guy each time, then it is to get money for doing that? Is it because somehow it reflects on society as a whole? This issue about what to do about prostitution is so complicated and incorporates many elements in life. If you wanna stop prostitution you have to stop strip clubs, porn, and sexual exploition. Well it is nearly impossible to shut down all of those things. I mean just think about the media they stem around this sex sells idea. They make a lot of money off of it just a prostitutes make money from having sex. Our society contradicts itself because in a round about way we are promoting it yet at the same time we are saying its wrong.You can have someone tell you prostitution is wrong then go listen to a song they like thats about banging bitches(excuse my language)Prostitutionhas stemed from many other influences and to get rid of prostitution you would have to get rid of all the other things that cause it. With such a complicated issue I believe more needs to be done to control it. Because as we know just because people are told something is wrong doesnt mean they are not going to do it. The people who sell and buy prostitution need to be given other oportunities to fulfill there wants in a way that is not harmful to either person

Sex Ed

If I were to teach sex ed I would go about it in a different way then when I was taught. In highschool we were taught sex ed only in grsde 9. I found it reallyakward because it was boys and girls.It seemed like the teacher was rushing to cover both sexes. I also didnt like that there was a heavy focus on drugs. It seems like from grade 5 onward there was constant disscussion about drugs. I heard stories ranging from people peeling their skin off because they thought they were an orange, all the way to videos of coke addicts showing their scars. When I was told about the lady trying to peel her skin off in grade 5 because of drugs, it was engrained in my brain that I would never touch them.So if I were to teach sex ed in a highschool setting I would keep it segregated and teach it much like this class. I would focus not so much on sexual intercourse but all the elements that are apart of sex and sexuality. I would have to say that this class has been the most beneficial human sexuality course I have been in. I believe that the disscussion of homosexuality needs to be disscussed in highschool. There is so much bullying related to it that there needs to be talks about it in a sex ed class rather then just not talking about it. Because I believe that is only making the problem worse. I think if I taught sex ed I would be able bring something new to the table that my teachers didnt.

My comfort zone

Today in class we were asked what arecontours, or limits for our comfort level? and why? I have never really thought about it before. I feel Im fairly open and feel very comfortable in most settings.I suppose if I were to focus on perhaps my limits on sex I am a little uncomfortable with the idea of sex toys and such. I was a bridesmaid at my cousins wedding and for part of her bachelourette party we had a passion party. I didnt mind it but i personally dont understand why its called a "party" all it was was a lady trying to sell sex toys.So I think that leads into my discomfort a bit. It feels very natural for me to talk about sex I have had with another person. However, to talk about how a vibrator made me feel or something like that just seems really weird to me. I would probably be really uncomfortable if someone were to randomly just talking about their sex toys or something like that. I feel its so personal that no one needs to know.On a slightly different note it makes me uncomfortable when older men flirt with me. It just creeps me out when someone the age of my dad comes through my til, and says you know you are extremely beautiful. Its like thanks for the compliment but I find it inappropriate.While watching the little clip from kink I didnt feel uncomfortable at all I realize people have different kinds of relationships and sexual relationships. So didnt feel the least bit surprised or uncomfortable. Except for when the one couple was packing a bunch of their sex toys. I was just thinking do you need all those? But everyone explores sex in different ways. My comfort levels are pretty high and someone would have to do something really out of the normal for me to feel extremely uncomfortable