Abortion

Abortion is a very sensitive topic. While discussing it in class I realized that there are endless amounts of opinions and one little thought can skew your whole opinion. I personally do not agree with abortion l except if you have been raped or your life is in danger. But even then I am apprehensive because who am I to decide on whether or not that potential life/life is less important or will have a bad life. The fact is you can’t. I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason and if I became pregnant it was meant to be. I’m not saying I don’t take precautions or feel I am even ready to take care of a child but if I did become pregnant then I would fit my life accordingly. I wouldn’t just terminate my pregnancy because it was an inconvenience for me to have a child at this time. I feel that sometimes abortion is just a quick fix for people a form of birth control. If you are not ready to have a baby, don’t have sex. I know saying that seems easier said then done but there is a big difference between want and ready. I think that if you engage in sex there is a part of you that has to be mentally aware and accepting that you could become pregnant. Once you think about this you really have to view it in a cost benefit sort of manner. You need to question yourself, what will happen if I become pregnant could I handle that? Could I work my life around that? If you find that in no way are you mentally prepared for that possible chance then you don’t have sex. I know this is how I decided when it was right for me to engage in sexual activity. I think abortion allows a woman to play “god” in a way and that’s not how life is supposed to be. This thought reminds me of my English class and the notion that how you take away the aspect of death, what would keep you from committing acts of evil? I relate this idea to abortion because if you can have sex without the worry of being pregnant, how are we going to form a type of responsibility for our actions. Since more or less abortion is removing the consequences for our actions. It’s a touchy subject and a lot of aspects are involved including all of Haberma’s Paradigms. You can look at it in each sense, (critical theoretical empirical analytical and situational interpretive) and come up with different ideas and opinions for each of those modalities. I believe that it is something that has to be debated on a very sensitive and in depth level.

Attractiveness

What determines attractiveness?Is it your face shape? What you wear how your voice sounds? Well it could be all those things and more. It is said attractiveness can be taken in 3 forms, Beauty, Non physical, and long term. We intitially are attracted to someone because of their looks wether they have awesome hair a nice smile and a fabulous body, We as humans all look for similiar attributes but to each individual these attributes are judged differently. Attraction can be broken down into 3 different categories, Beauty, Non-physical traits and longterm. If you were to consider your relationship right now or assess how you get into a relationship you would find that all the qualities could fit under these categories. In order to want to be with someone you have to be physically attracted to them. Then in order to contines the relationship or perhaps even engage the relationship there has to be certain qualities in that person that you are attracted to. For example I am attracted to my boyfriends humour and outook on life. If the relationship goes well then you start looking for qualities that are more long term. For example what are their dreams and aspirations do they want kids? where do they want live? and that kind of thing.Our attraction for someone can diminish over time essentially because they are not meeting one or more of your desires in any of these categories. Attraction is a funny thing it can range from shallow to deep and you never know where it may ultimately take you

Gender and Justin Bieber

I was thinking about gender the other day, and how we learned that gender is learned rather then assigned like sex. This made me think of Justin Bieber. I often here comments towards Justin Bieber in a negative way. People will say things like he sings like a girl maybe he will be better when his voice drops. Now i would have to agree that his voice probably would sound a lot better if it dropped down a bit. Due to this comment i realized that the main reason a majority of people dont like Justin Bieber, is because he is to "feminine". Our society has a specific set of standards your required to meet for a specific gender role. If you dont meet these requirements you are bashed for it. This is not to say that everyone dislikes Justin Bieber, there are many who do like him. However I assume that a majority of his fans are indeed females. I believe more females like him because he shows a more feminine side. However this is what causes more males to dislike him. Males may not even realize that the underlying reason they may dislike Justin Bieber, is because he doesnt fit the specific gender role, that has been established for a male. The media most often wants to portray males in the most manly way and females in the most feminine way as possible. Perhaps because most people look up to celebrities for their gender ideals. I think this is why their is so much love and hate for Justin Bieber. Males dont want to aspire to be Justin Bieber. But perhaps for females this is what they aspire their "ideal" man to be. Our society is based on these gender roles and ideals we have to be able to seperate what we want from what society wants so we can better assess who we want to be.